Breaking up from a relationship that one has taken a whole lot of time to build is not an easy thing to let go, many of those relationships have taken ones time, energy, emotions, and even resources to build.
However, there’s a factor that can make that union come to a halt, this does not mean that both parties have not tried to salvage it, but at times it just has to happen.
That’s not where the real story is though, this blog post is about moving on after it has happened. How you do that is what I will be talking about below.
So much stress usually comes with a breakup, first of all, you think of the memories shared whether good or bad, then again the reality of life sets in, where do I start from? Who do I turn to? and so many other questions that are raised.
After my break up something’s I applied have really worked for me, therefore, I felt the need to share so that others can give them a trial in their moment of need.
The basics after a breakup are numerous but I chose to go with these five (5);
1. Find yourself (explore)
2. Engage yourself with something.
3. Change your environment.
4. Make new friends.
5. Be strong in faith and move on.
Explore (Find yourself)
This is a way of finding your real self by being natural, this is the most difficult period to deal with because apparently, someone who has been part of your life for only God knows when and you, saying goodbye to the person has to be a very bitter pill to swallow.
This is about the time you will be thinking where do I go from here? How do I start all over again or who will want me like this? Nobody needs to want you just want, love and trust yourself.
Emotions are usually high during these periods, but focus, on the things that makes you happy rather than the ones that make you keep falling back to think about all the negative situations whether good or bad in your mind.
It’s also good to sulk yes, but don’t dwell too much in it because that too may lead to depression, and by the time that happens, it will be very difficult to come out, therefore, it may become an illness and untimely death.
I believe nobody wants to go to an early grave simply because of a breakup.
Engage yourself with something
You might have been nurturing that dream for only God knows when, but it has never manifested, and again it never left you though, my fear go for it. Only do the things that you are passionate about and what makes you happy. Because the bottom line is being happy, get too involved that you hardly have time to reminisce or sulk over a breakup.
Change your environment if necessary.
Nobody wants to remain in an environment that remains them of negative memory, sometimes you walk around and you feel the memories or see people around you that reminds you of all the heartache you’ve been through.
If you can, please have a change of environment where you’ll start afresh and with people who know little or nothing about you. Remaining in your old environment is not a bad idea too. But some people will naturally want to torture your by constantly reminding you of what you as the victim is trying to forget thinking they are helping, some will show you fake or insincere sympathy wherein real sense they are happy it happened to you.
Make new friends.
If you are rue cheerful type who likes to socialize, this could actually be easier for you. This is because it will not take you time to meet people and make interactions, discuss any topic of interest with people around you and by so doing you are open to a new relationship with total strangers whom you may find interesting too.
Be strong in faith and move on.
If you are the religious type and you feel you’ll want to make some devotional commitments then go for it, there is no peace as the peace of trusting someone whom you know you can trust wholeheartedly.
Don’t just let it be the preliminary of your existences, because you cannot fold your arms and just trust in God and expect manners from heaven to fall, no dear, you need to be up and doing, to salvage yourself respect, your needs are always there staring you in the face and no one to cater for you. And if you have children too, darling get out of that sober mood and experience the real world.
All the points I’ve listed above, really worked out for me, and I also saw some other people who have been through such situations, I felt I should share for anyone who is passing through a breakup, or is bereaved, you can apply the same and I bet you won’t regret ever trying it.